Transformational therapy for people tired of
talking endlessly and ready for healing that sticks.
ONLINE THERAPY THROUGHOUT MICHIGAN
I help highly sensitive, self-aware people who are done with just coping and ready for something real to create deep, lasting change.
Imagine…
Setting a boundary with your whole body in agreement, not white-knuckling through the guilt and bracing for fallout.
Trusting what you already know without spiraling, second-guessing, or talking yourself out of it before you've even begun.
Understanding your anxiety as a messenger with something worth hearing, not a malfunction to be managed.
Feeling at home in yourself, not just performing okayness for a world that trained you to put yourself last.
It's not a fantasy. Your body already knows the way. It just needs the right conditions and the right person in your corner who genuinely cares.
Maybe you've been in therapy before, possibly for years. You're not new to this. You've done the work, read the books, learned the coping skills. You can probably explain your patterns better than most people can.
And yet. Something still isn't shifting.
You're exhausted from holding everything together for everyone else. Your anxiety hasn't gotten the memo that you've figured out where it comes from. You know why you can't set that boundary. You just can't seem to actually do it.
That gap between knowing and changing? That's not a willpower problem. That's not a you problem. Your responses make complete sense given what you've been through and the systems you've had to navigate. But insight alone can't reach what lives in the body, and that's where the work actually happens.
If you're self-aware enough to know something's off, tired enough to want it to actually change, and ready to go deeper than words alone can take you, you're in exactly the right place.
You’ve done the therapy. You have the insight, but you still feel stuck.
Sound familiar?
You're the one everyone knows they can count on. You care deeply and you always show up. But you're exhausted in a bone-deep way that's hard to explain, and you're starting to wonder how much longer you can keep running on empty.
You know why you people-please, why you can't say no, why you keep ending up last on your own list. Knowing hasn't changed it.
You didn't grow up in a war zone. But you grew up in a world that had strong opinions about how much space you were allowed to take up, how much you were allowed to feel, and what you were supposed to need. That leaves a lasting mark.
Your body is always doing something: bracing, scanning, holding. You can't remember the last time you felt fully at ease. That's not dysfunction. That's adaptation.
You've wondered if maybe you're just wired wrong. Too sensitive. Too much. Not enough. The truth is that you're a person whose system learned exactly what it needed to learn to survive.
Somewhere along the way you lost the thread of who you actually are underneath all the managing and performing and holding it together for everyone else.
I get it, and I’ve got you
I'm Emily Perraut, LLP, trauma therapist, certified Brainspotting consultant, and someone who truly gives a damn about the people I work with. And I'm going to be real with you.
I've spent the last decade specializing in trauma, Brainspotting, and nervous system work, and the nearly 15 years of clinical experience behind that has taught me a great deal about what actually creates lasting change and what doesn't.
What I know for certain is that there's a difference between helping people manage and cope, and helping them genuinely heal. That difference is what drives my work. This isn't just clinical knowledge for me. My own healing work and lived experience are woven into everything I do, and they're a big part of why I work the way I do.
Here's another thing I know: insight alone isn't enough. You can understand your patterns completely and still feel utterly unable to change them. That's not a flaw in your wiring. It's what happens when survival responses get woven into the brain and body, and talking alone can't reach it.
We will work with your brain, body, and nervous system to help you access and process what's been stuck. Not by reliving it or analyzing it to death, but by working with your own system's innate capacity to heal. I blend Brainspotting, parts work, and nervous system regulation, letting your system lead the way.
I don't pathologize your responses to hard circumstances and unjust systems, and I know you're not broken. I think you're a highly sensitive person who adapted brilliantly to situations that were hard, and those adaptations are ready to be updated.
I work best with people who are done with surface-level coping or analyzing, ready to go somewhere new, somewhere deep, and with folks who are ready and willing to do the real thing.
If that’s you, I would be deeply honored to accompany you.
Real talk about what this work is — and isn't
This isn't therapy that helps you cope better with a life that doesn't fit. It's therapy that helps you figure out why the life you built feels like it's suffocating you and what to do about that.
For a lot of people, that process is both freeing and disorienting in equal measure. When you stop numbing, you start feeling things you've been outrunning for years. When you stop people-pleasing, some relationships get harder before they get better, or you realize they weren't working at all. Jobs change. Priorities shift. Things you thought were fixed turn out to be negotiable.
That's not a side effect. That's the work.
Not changing has its own pain. It's just a familiar pain you've learned to manage. This is different. It can be harder in the short term but it ultimately leads to more freedom, more ease, more you.
If you're looking for someone to help you function better inside of systems and a life that are quietly making you miserable and keeping you silent and small, I'm probably not your person. If you're ready to figure out what's actually true for you, even if it's a little terrifying, I might be exactly the right one.
Therapist and author Resmaa Menakem calls this clean pain versus dirty pain in his book, My Grandmother’s Hands. I think about that distinction a lot in this work. Doing the work is optional; you get to pick your pain.